3 Steps to Achieve a Life You Love

Are you ready for a new direction? Are you ready to reflect upon the last 365 days, let go of what no longer serves you, and set yourself in the direction of your desires in the upcoming year?  If so, read on! This is for you.  

While mentoring leaders over the past 5 years in our wellness business, one thing I know for certain is that without clarity, goals are not achieved and results aren’t sustainable.  One of the best ways to achieve clarity is through reflection, gratitude and creating a vision. Here is an exercise to deepen clarity in your vision and create direction to achieve the best version of YOU. Credit to Coach Tiffany Peterson at thelighthouseprinciples.com who originally introduced me to this process. 

Grab a journal or a few sheets of blank paper, your favorite pen, a cup of tea and lets get started!



In a journal or blank sheet of paper, thouroughly answer the following questions:

  1. What were your wins & victories this year?
  2. What was your biggest challenge or heartache this year?
  3. What was the gift of this challenge or heartache?
  4. What are you most proud of in yourself this year?
  5. What makes you feel the most joy in your life? 



Ok, now that we know were we came from, lets get clear on where we are going. Don’t cheat yourself, be sure to complete the above questions before moving forward.



  1. What do you want to feel more of in the coming year?
  2. What do you want to feel more of in your HEALTH (physically, mentally, vitality)?
  3. What do you want to feel more of in your RELATIONSHIPS (family, friends, partner, spouse, business)?
  4. What do you want to feel more of in your SPIRITUAL life (this can be spiritual, religious, or personal growth)
  5. What do you want to feel more of in your FINANCES (business, investments, budgeting)?

Why focus on the feeling? Because human motivation and action is derived from feelings.  You want to achieve a new level in your business, a healthier body, a romantic relationship, a new car, a different house? Why? How will that make you feel? The motivation is attached to the feeling, not the object. 



Ok, now you know where you have been and where you are going. Lets make a plan to get there!



On a blank sheet of paper, draw 2 intersecting lines to make a quadrant.  In each quadrant, write one of these 4 words: health, spiritual, relationships, and finances.

Next to each word, rate your current satisfaction in each of these 4 areas, 1 being totally dissatisfied and 10 being perfect. 

Now it’s time for the BEST part! Write down ONE action to help you move towards the way you would like to feel in each of these areas.  What would move you even one number up from the original number you rated each area?

Vision Quadrant


Your vision quadrant is filled out with an action item for each category, now what? Take action and incorporate these habits into your life.  Revisit the vision quadrant regularly and adjust as needed.  I recommend revisiting weekly!  Your goal stays on there until it is achieved, becomes an automatic habit, or is adjusted to best fit your vision.  Once your goal is achieved, CELEBRATE, and replace the previous goal with a new action item to move you in the direction of your vision. If you are worried about, “falling of the wagon” rally an accountability partner to share your goals with each week. This can be a friend, family member, spouse, co-worker, mentor, coach, ect. An accountability partner is like a workout buddy for your dreams!


How do I personally use this process? At the end of each month, I journal on Steps 1-3. Weekly, on Sunday evenings, I take 10-15 minutes to go through Step 3, reassess my priorities and adjust my vision quadrant goals. This is what I call living a life by design with clarity, passion, and consistency. This helps me prioritze my life and week with what's most important.  


If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will.  Each day is a new beginning.  There is no need to wait until a New Year, a new month or a new week to start this process.  The best time to start is NOW! Start creating a life you love.


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